I'm out at bars every night of the week mentoring Wolf & Garden members. And every night I see a guy from the PUA community pick up a girl and spin her around. It's the new technique guys are doing. Years ago, it was the “neg.” Now that's been put down. Another popular one is instantly grabbing a girls hands from the beginning while talking with her. It's supposed to create a “connection” and force “attraction” more quickly. Another year it was high-fiving a girl, a long time ago it was “cocky/funny” and using scripted routines. There's always a new kid on the block with a new gimmick.
Here’s the problem with Kanye—
My guess is he was raised like a prince by his mom. And since he’s damn talented and ambitious, he probably moved smoothly up the ladder (not without hard work though). As he hit celeb status, people treat him like a celeb, they never disagree with him. Mix being a momma’s boy only child in an affluent upbringing with an extremely talented, highly lauded celebrity and you get Kanye. He’s been told all his life how amazing he is by his parents, by his fans, so he lives like that. But when people talk to him with slightest criticism, he gets uncomfortable. That’s why he can’t even look at the guy because he’d probably get upset and break down. I'd love to mentor Kanye in how to deal with these social issues…
It’s a hard pill to swallow. But the truth is when you see that hot girl, you’re not actually attracted to her. Attraction is a unique thing. You feel butterflies, you feel a rush of adrenaline to grab her, you feel a compulsion to make love to her. That is attraction. Don’t get that mixed up with being desperate. Being desperate is tightening in your chest when you see something of value that you don’t have. You feel a bit frustrated. You feel anxious. Attraction doesn’t make you anxious. Attraction makes you the opposite. There …Continue reading
After each training session with a Wolf & Garden member, I write him a letter. Sometimes I put these letters on this blog…
Like a piece of art done by two people, you take turns with the paintbrush and collaborate on the painting without saying anything to each other. Swipe some black strokes on the canvas, then give her the brush and look at her expectantly. She takes the strokes you’ve made and adds yellow paint to the canvas, somewhat following your stroke pattern, except in her own way. Then you take a bit of her style and add more to the painting, until you end up with something never made before.
Wolf & Garden is a private society of gentlemen dedicated to mastering the arts of dating, charisma, and lifestyle. Only extraordinary men are accepted. You must bring something to this group of twenty-five men that the other twenty-four can not. Every now and then, a member asks me to release a personal experience of his. This member is already good with women, as many Wolf & Garden members are. But this particular experience brought him to a new level. As you read, you will be listening to him explain the skills he’s learned and how I directed …Continue reading
To base your attraction solely on a woman’s looks communicates that you would want others to judge you based on those same standards. As a man, you are already f***ed. Women have a masters’ degree in beauty, you ugly beast.
A Wolf & Garden member messaged me today telling me how he was practicing a secret technique we teach called Wolf Eyes. Here’s the conversation that followed: I practiced Wolf Eyes with a girl today. She says, “I know what you’re doing.” I say, “What am I doing?” She says, “The way you’re looking at me.” I say, “What do you expect me to look at when I talk to you?” She makes a face and says, “It feels like you’re staring at my soul.” Now I understand the power of this technique. Wow. It’s great to see a new …Continue reading
I believe interactions are binary. 1 or 0. On or off. I either ignore you, or I am 100% there with you. Anything in between is a waste of time. This is why some people know me as intense, and some people know me as a recluse. Nothing good happens in the middle.